Swami Vishwananda answered: "You have to analyse yourself. When you analyse yourself, you see your qualities, your emotions, your thoughts. All these qualities, good or bad are not YOU. First you see the negative qualities and you realise that you have to change. If you don't change yourself, the nature will make it happen and sometimes the people change only after terrible experiences.In your analysing process, don't stay with the negativity, you have to go deeper in the forest. It is like a glass of water filled with water and dust. You cannot see through the glass. Day after day you put clean water inside. The dust from the bottom comes out and you think: it is worse as before. There are more dust as before. You have to persevere. Don't give up. Daily the dust is taken out through the adding of the clean water. At the end of the process, the dust is gone. Only the unconditional love stays. The heart shines outside with this unconditional love."